BossLady Files: Staying Present
Hi Kurlies! As you may know, my name is Lana and I’m the founder of Kurly Klips. Never in my wildest dreams did I envision owning my own company, but life has a way of fulfilling your heart’s desires if you let go of the wheel and just let it. Lessons learned: that’s what these BossLady files are all about.
“I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it would move. Nothing would be impossible.” Matthew 17:20
As a little kid in Sunday school, my imagination would run wild with the imagery in this scripture. Little six-year-old Lana, staring down Everest, moving it with the power of her thoughts alone. But even at that age, I understood the impossibility of it. Not because I thought moving a mountain was impossible – I mean, I was six, I still believed I could dig a hole to China – but rather because I doubted. I feared that it was impossible and thus it was. At six, I learned the power of fear and how it can prevent you from achieving your desires.
This January, while browsing the Kindle library, I stumbled across a book called: It is Done!: The Final Step To Instant Manifestation. While reading it, the lesson from that scripture bubbled back up to my conscious and I remembered how fear can literally act as a roadblock. The book seemed a little new-agey and I wasn’t convinced, so I decided to test it while bowling one evening with my friends. Its premise? You can manifest a desire by A) envisioning it, B) feeling what it would be like when you attain it, and C) saying and believing it has happened WITHOUT DOUBT.
And you’ll never believe what happened. I have witnesses.
“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” Plato
So your girl was bowling gutter balls ALL NIGHT. I could not hit a pin to save my life. I was DEAD last. I scored 25 points in the whole game. For those of you who are unfamiliar with bowling, let’s just say some of my friends scored in the triple digits.
Before the next game started, I decided to apply the techniques from the book. I closed my eyes and envisioned myself bowling strikes. I literally felt how amazing it would be to do so in that moment: the excitement, the adrenalin, the triumph, the joy! I said, “It is done,” completely believing it was possible…
and here’s the clincher…
I forgot about it. I focused my thoughts on how grateful I was for the present moment: for hanging out with my friends, the 2000s playlist jamming on the speakers, the bubbles from my soda tickling my throat. My mind was on everything else but that game. So when my turn came, I collected my ball when a thought flashed through my mind. “You’re holding it wrong,” my inner voice said. “Throw it like this instead…”
“When you reach the end of what you should know, you will be at the beginning of what you should sense.” Kahlil Gibran
I tried it, and I swear to you, I knocked down all the pins but three. On my second turn, I knocked all but the last pin down. I performed like this the entire game, and to everyone’s surprise, won it with a triple digit score.
So how did I erase Doubt and her basic cousin Fear to win the game I had lost an hour before? I trusted everything would work out well for me, and because I BELIEVED this, I didn’t think about it anymore. I didn’t play it over and over and over again in my head. I simply re-shifted my attention to enjoying and being grateful for the present moment instead.
Unless my life is under direct threat (which it usually isn’t), my present is pretty amazing. Do I have everything I desire? No. But I’m doing alright for myself and there’s no reason why I can’t continue to prosper. I’ve realized so much of my anxiety is imagination based. I manifest this negativity by thinking about it constantly, which can impact my actions. Yet when I feel grateful for the present, I radiate positivity. This not only impacts my thoughts and actions, but how people interact with me as well. Kurly Klips is doing better than ever since I’ve set my goals and stopped worrying about them. By staying present, I work at the task at hand instead of expending unnecessary energy on imaginary fears. It’s not until I reflect on where I’ve come from that I take note of all the mountains I’ve moved along the way.
And honestly, you can do it too.