What you feel, you are. This is why affirmations and positive thinking don’t always work. You might tell yourself 100x a day that you’re a winner. But if you don’t feel like a winner, these affirmations just further emphasize the fact that you aren’t. And that my friend, can do more damage than good.

That’s why it’s important to get in touch with your higher-self and feel good about who you are. The easiest way to do that is to have an unshakeable belief that everything will work out well for you in the end.

But there’s a catch. If you don’t truly believe it – if you doubt it – it won’t work. When worry shrouds your vision, you’re more likely to miss amazing opportunities and blessings. You truly have to let go, solve problems as they arise, and maintain a pure faith that it will work out alright.

But Lana, I did that and a situation still didn’t work out how I wanted.

I hear that. Let me explain.

When I was 16, I lost one of my best friend to bone cancer. He was 14.

Brandon and I became really close after I was in an accident that left me with severe trauma to my head, back, and neck, along with a sprained arm and minor brain damage. My accident happened in January and I was out of school for the rest of the year.

As soon as I got off bedrest, I would visit Brandon all the time. I tried to encourage him and bring him joy during his chemotherapy and he did the same for me as the bone in my neck slowly shifted back into place. I loved Brandon like a little brother. He was the sweetest, not to mention lightyears ahead of me when it came to intrinsic strength.

Bone Cancer is nearly always fatal in children. And as Brandon’s time came to an end, he had a choice: live his last days with worry or peace. Brandon chose peace.

In those last days, he told his family and friends that he had been healed. Brandon wasn’t referring to the state of his body. He was referring to his state of mind. He chose to leave this world feeling healed, loved, at peace, and with a completed purpose. At 14, he passed with so much grace.

Designing your life is 100% about how you choose to perceive yourself, your life, and the people in your environment. It starts and ends in the mind.

This isn’t a call to be blissfully delusional. Brandon knew his time was coming to an end, but he recognized the blessed gift of choice. And he chose to pass as a courageous warrior.

So face your challenges with grace. Choose to feel peace no matter what. That is life design.



My Kurlies, I hope you found this series useful. If you have any questions about business or life, submit your question either in the comments or by emailing care@kurlyklips.com – for a chance to have them answered on the YouTube channel + blog.

And if you have a moment, please pray for Brandon’s parents. I haven’t talked to them in years to be honest, so they didn’t ask me to do this or anything. But sending positivity and love doesn’t cause harm. It can only help. So send out a little prayer. Even it’s only 5 seconds. I would really appreciate it.